Bible, Love, Sex, sexuality, Culture

What Does the Bible Really Say About Sex?

Sex is everywhere—but is it actually helping us find connection, trust, or peace? For many, it leads to confusion, broken trust, or regret that’s hard to shake. The messages we hear from culture often leave us stuck—unsure where to turn or how to move forward. In this message, Pastor Sean Sears shares what the Bible really says about sex—and how God’s design offers something better: freedom from shame, healing from the past, and a clear path to intimacy that actually lasts.

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Big Idea: God’s design for sex and marriage leads to your flourishing—not your frustration. God’s boundaries aren’t about repression—they’re about blessing.

Key Points:

Sex is Sacred, Not Casual

  • Sex isn’t dirty, and it’s not divine—it’s designed.
  • God made it. God blessed it. God gave it boundaries so it could flourish.

[Genesis 2:24-25] “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.”

  • Sex was God’s idea from the very beginning—not a human invention or a byproduct of sin.
  • He introduced it in the safety and permanence of covenant relationship before sin ever entered the world.

[Song of Solomon 1:2] “Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.”

[Song of Solomon 4:9-10] “You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes… Your love delights me, my treasure, my bride. Your love is better than wine, your perfume more fragrant than spices.”

[Song of Solomon 8:6-7] “Place me like a seal over your heart… Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it.”

“Sex isn’t a result of sin, it was part of Eden. Sex isn’t sinful, it’s sacred.”

Sex Requires Covenant, Not Consumption

[Matthew 19:4-6] “‘Haven’t you read the Scriptures?’ Jesus replied. ‘They record that from the beginning “God made them male and female.” And he said, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.'”

[1 Corinthians 6:18-20] “Run from sexual sin! … Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit…? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”

  • Outside of covenant, sex violates your own body and dishonors God.
  • Whether it’s sex outside of marriage—or sexual images on a screen—anything outside of covenant distorts what God designed to be beautiful.

“Like fire in a fireplace, sex warms the home. Outside of covenant, it burns the house down.”

“Intimacy without commitment leads to emotional damage. Sex without covenant will always break something.”

Sex Reflects Christ, Not Culture

[Ephesians 5:31-32] “As the Scriptures say, ‘A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.”

  • Biblical sexuality isn’t about asserting our preferences—it’s about reflecting God’s pattern of sacrificial love.
  • In marriage, our bodies are not our own—they’re entrusted to each other in love, just as Jesus gave Himself fully for us.

[1 Corinthians 7:4] “The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.”

“God takes your sex life personally—because it’s meant to reflect Him.”

Sex Thrives Within Boundaries, Not Rebellion

[Hebrews 13:4] “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

[Proverbs 5:18-19] “Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth… may you always be captivated by her love.”

  • Sexual desire is not sinful—it’s sacred when directed within marriage.
  • God’s design includes not just permission but delight in marital intimacy.
  • The goal isn’t just self-control—it’s joyful intimacy.

“God doesn’t limit joy—He protects it.”

Key Takeaway:

[2 Corinthians 5:17] “Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”

Next Steps:

Ask Yourself:

  • Have I been treating sex as something casual—or something sacred?
  • Have I stepped outside of God’s design in any way?
  • Do I believe that God’s plan for sex is not just right—but good?
  • Am I building a view of sex and marriage that reflects God’s glory—or the culture’s confusion?

“You are not disqualified. You are not dirty beyond repair. You are not what you’ve done—or what’s been done to you.”

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Application Questions

  1. What stood out to you from this message and why?
  2. What is one thing God is telling you to START doing because of this message?
  3. What is one thing God is telling you to STOP doing because of this message?
  4. How will this message change how you act at home, at work, and in your relationships?

Sex is everywhere—but is it actually helping us find connection, trust, or peace? For many, it leads to confusion, broken trust, or regret that’s hard to shake. The messages we hear from culture often leave us stuck—unsure where to turn or how to move forward. In this message, Pastor Sean Sears shares what the Bible really says about sex—and how God’s design offers something better: freedom from shame, healing from the past, and a clear path to intimacy that actually lasts.

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