Framily are the people you actually live your life with.
In this series, we will be looking at the closest people in our lives and learning how to do it better. This is the sequel to better together.
“BE for others, what you NEED from them”.
Matthew 7:12 – “Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and prophets.”
- Jesus was first to put this in positive form.
- Jesus moves this from a “leave each other alone” to a “go out of your way to serve”.
- We’re taught “be true to yourself”, Jesus taught “be true to others”.
1 John 4:7-8
You can’t say that you personally know God if you don’t show this kind of love to others.
What kind of love if John saying we must show? 1 John 4:9
- John answers by demonstrating the extravagance of God’s love.
- God proactively sent Jesus to give us what we needed before we needed BEFORE we even knew we were in need.
He defines this love more specifically in 1 John 4:10
- Not that we love him but he loved us = real love.
- Real love isn’t conditional on anything in the other person
- Real love isn’t dependent on the response of the other person.
Then John punches us in the face with 1 John 4:11
- Since God has given that kind of love to you
- You ought to give that to others
- But I don’t want to
Summary:
- Proactively look for ways to show love
- Choose to love first
- Love others that may not love us
- Love others even when it doesn’t make a difference to them
Who gets to choose who’s in my Framily of Love.
- You may not like this Matthew 5:43-47
- How do I prove that I’m a child of God?
- Anyone can love people who love them back
- Our example isn’t our neighbor, it’s Jesus.
- Our neighbor is the benefactor of our willingness to follow that example. 1 John 4:12 This is how God is most fully expressed in us.
- This is what makes our faith the most contagious
- This is what makes the biggest difference in the lives of others.
BE FOR OTHERS, WHAT YOU WANT FROM OTHERS
John 13:35
- Love is what you should be known for
- Difficult people need to be the objects of our affection, not obstacles to our agenda.
Success is measured, in the eyes of God, not by our size but by our love.
APPLICATION:
Imagine what would happen if we started keeping score
- not by our bank accounts
- not by our “likes”
- but by the way we demonstrated love to people
What is one thing you can do this week to surprise someone with LOVE?