You Don’t Complete Me: Living Well While You’re Single

Singleness Isn’t a Waiting Room — It’s a Calling

Common Misconceptions

Like Ariel in The Little Mermaid who mistook a fork for a hair brush, many of us have misunderstood the purpose of relationships:

• The myth of soulmates
• The belief that finding the “perfect person” will complete you
• The idea that singleness is just preparation for “real life”

Biblical Perspective

[1 Corinthians 7:7] “I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.”

Key Truth: Singleness isn’t the waiting room of life—it’s a calling to leverage!

Three Ways to Maximize Your Singleness

1. Remember That Another Person Can’t Complete You

Common lies we believe:

• “All my problems with lust will go away when I get married.”
• “If I marry the right person, we’ll never fight.”
• “Others will know I’m valuable once I’m married.”
• “Singleness is just a waiting room for marriage.”
• “I can’t have a meaningful life without a spouse and kids.”

[Colossians 2:9-10] “For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. So you also are complete through your union with Christ.”

How do you know if you have the gift of singleness? If you woke up this morning and you’re single… you have the gift of singleness (at least for today). It’s not a disease, it’s an opportunity.

2. Celebrate the Stage of Life You’re In

[1 Corinthians 7:17] “Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.”

Jesus’ words on singleness: [Matthew 19:12] “Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”

Your singleness is not a curse—it’s an opportunity to serve God in ways married people cannot.

3. Use Your Gift Now

[1 Corinthians 12:4-7] “A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other.”

[Isaiah 56:4-5] “For this is what the LORD says: I will bless those eunuchs who keep my Sabbath days holy and who choose to do what pleases me and commit their lives to me. I will give them—within the walls of my house—a memorial and a name far greater than sons and daughters could give. For the name I give them is an everlasting one. It will never disappear!”

If you can’t serve God in your singleness, what makes you think adding another person in your life is going to make it easier?!

Singles Who Changed the World

• Eric Liddell (1902-1945): Olympic gold medalist who became a missionary in China
• C.S. Lewis (1898-1963): Author whose singleness gave him uninterrupted time for writing influential Christian works
• Amy Carmichael (1867-1951): Missionary who devoted 55 years to rescuing children in India
• Katie Davis Majors: Founded Amazima Ministries and adopted 13 orphaned girls
• John Stott (1921-2011): Theologian whose singleness enabled him to focus on the global church

Practical Applications

1. Shift your perspective: See singleness as a gift, not a curse
2. Invest your freedom: Use your undivided time and attention for kingdom work
3. Build community: Create meaningful relationships beyond romantic ones
4. Develop yourself: Grow in areas that will serve you in any life stage

[2 Corinthians 12:9] “Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

Being single is not JV, it’s not being stuck in the waiting room of life. It IS life, don’t waste it!

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